Anecdotes and Realizations

 Menstruation. Someting that all the women in the world go through every 20-30 days but still is not really talked about. Is that not shocking! That almost half of the world goes through this, but still so many people refuse to talk about it.  Period talk is much more open now than the early days, but it still makes a lot of people awkward. Boys especially, are kept in the dark, and I can only imagine their reaction when they are finally told. 'You all bleed? Monthly? What? Why didn't anyone tell me??' That is a great question. Why is it a taboo? It happens literally all the time. To everyone. It is one of the most normal things ever. But still we are caught in whispers, hiding sanitary napkins and not explaining why we don't want to swim today.  Things like this, seem harmless, but put feminism back a few steps. Why should women be ashamed of their bodies? Their bodily functions. They should be open about their struggles, their questions. But many young girls, are not ...

I've known people, heard of stories where people give up on their dreams. It's not their fault. They think that's what they 'have to do'. That it is good to sacrifice your happiness for others.  Give up their dreams, their fun, their ideal life and tell others to do the same, because that is normal. It is normal, especially for women, to stop going after their dreams, their life, for men, for families.  'We have to!', 'These are our responsibilities' , 'We have no choice' But you do! Nobody can ever, legally, physically, mentally, make you do anything. Think about it! What if you die tomorrow? Do you want to please people or be happy with the life you led? Your ideal life is waiting for you, if you wake up and take it. I'm not saying to tell your loved ones to go to hell, but when you do what you need for yourself, what you want for yourself, people will fall in line. Assert yourself. Don't blame the system.  Change the system. Why be...

 The title reminds of the surge of excitement I felt writing my first blog. It's been a year and I've explored a lot of myself through this blog so far! This year's birthday story begins on Oct 1st, when at school I got a splitting headache during a periodic test. I finished my paper in a rush and went home. After a few painful hours , I had some upchuck and then slept for a while. I got a headache because I had been feeling unspecial that day, there is a custom at school for birthdays and I did not receive it. Not to be ungrateful, but that was how I felt.  But then I realised, I have so many people who do love me, so very much, why not focus on the love I do get rather than on what I don't.  I went with Chechi to QMart for her gift to me - All You can Get Grocery shopping :D We had a lot of fun, looking at all the fancy stuff, laughing and talking together. We came back and then Mama and I put on Zindagi Na Milegi Dobara while she wrapped my gifts ! It was 12! We cut ...